Supreme Self Confidence in Minutes
How To Get Supreme Self Confidence in Minutes
Around 20 years ago, I was taught a technique that genuinely changed my life.
At the time, I was experiencing panic attacks. I felt deeply anxious in social situations and really struggled being around people. Even simple interactions could feel overwhelming.
I remember working in a design team back then. We were creating homeware ranges: cushions, bedding, curtains, and I was asked to deliver a presentation. The goal was to explain what our team did and, quite honestly, justify our existence within the business.
The thought of standing in front of a room full of people and speaking? I was absolutely terrified.
The Unexpected Turning Point
A friend recommended something to me – a CD (yes, we’re going that far back). It was by Paul McKenna, focused on something called Supreme Self Confidence.
On that CD was a technique I still use to this day.
And I want to share it with you.
The Brain Association Technique
It’s incredibly simple, but powerful.
You close your eyes and imagine a situation where you want to feel confident.
For me, back then, it was that presentation. I would picture myself standing there: shoulders back, head held high, speaking clearly. My words flowing. Feeling calm. Smiling. Making eye contact. People engaged, even laughing.
Everything going well.
If visualising doesn’t come naturally, you can focus on the feeling instead. That’s actually the most important part – the feeling of confidence.
When you reach that feeling, you press your thumb and finger together.
That’s it.
Building the Association
You repeat this daily.
You can also approach it from another angle. Recall a real moment from your past where you felt confident. Relive it. Really step back into that feeling. Then anchor it again by pressing your thumb and finger together.
The more emotion you bring into it, the stronger the association becomes.
You can keep it simple (which is what I do), or you can play with it. Imagine colours, energy, whatever resonates with you.
But at its core, it’s about feeling.
What Happens Over Time
When you practise this consistently, even just five minutes a day for a couple of weeks, your brain starts to connect that physical gesture with the feeling of confidence.
So when a moment comes where you feel a wobble…
You press your fingers together.
And your body remembers.
The Moment It Worked
I practised this every day for 21 days before that presentation.
And when the day came, I cannot explain how different I felt. The confidence was almost unbelievable.
There was a moment where I paused, slightly unsure of what to say next. Normally, that would have spiralled.
Instead, I pressed my fingers together, took a breath… and it was like my whole system reset.
I carried on.
That one experience gave me evidence.
And that’s powerful.
Because now, whenever I prepare for something like a talk, an event, even a social situation, I don’t just imagine confidence. I remember it.
“Remember that time? You did it. You felt it.”
And I anchor it again.
A Simple Practice but a Powerful Shift
I’ve used this technique before art shows, book launches, online events with thousands of people, and everyday social moments where I’ve felt caught off guard.
If I know something is coming up, I spend a couple of weeks practising.
Just five minutes a day.
And throughout the day, whenever I naturally feel good or confident – I anchor it again.
It becomes a kind of safety net.
Try It for Yourself
You’ve got nothing to lose.
Try it for two weeks and see what happens.
And if you do – I’d love to hear from you. Let me know how it goes.
Have a really confident week!!
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Have a great week & take care,
Michelle xo
